Class Lessons using the book, The 5 Love Languages. By psychologist, Gary Chapman.

"A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another. By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another." John 13:34-35

Although this book is written for married couples, but it is not just for married people. It can be applied to a mother, father, son, daughter, sister, brother, parent, grandparent, husband or wife etc... Just about everybody should be able to benefit from what is being taught in this book which really are bible principles. It is another tool in our Christian toolkit. Communication is a useful tool.

The book talks about falling in love. It talks about the love tank. It is each person’s desire to receive and expend love. For each one that we care for, we either fill their love tank or we don’t. Each one of us has something inside that asks for recognition and we have a love tank that likes to get filled up.

In this series of classes you will:

1.  Identifying what love languages the people in your life prefer. When we are done, you should be able to identify and communicate effectively in their primary and secondary love language. We must take time to understand how others are perceiving our love for them. Maybe you are not connecting with a loved one because they don’t communicate the same way you do. Learning another's love language brings a deeper level of communication and understanding with it.
2. Understand the differences between love and an emotion. Because of his great love for us, Jesus chose to lay his life down willingly. We do the same when we choose to love someone else. We show it even when, at times, it may seem unnatural or forced. It is different than love as an emotion. Love as an emotion is what people feel when they first fall in love.

The in-love feeling wears off. Studies show that after about ten years of a relationship, often there’s a crisis. The people then find that they just exist together. After the honeymoon, and until things change, you have two people cohabiting.

We need to be aware that relationships will change. People change. We may have been married or had children for many years. Whatever worked twenty five years ago will not necessarily work now. We must accept it and be willing to adjust. The adjustment must fit. You must understand that teenagers change. They may have been loving and cooperative when they were younger. When they become about age twelve, they become different creatures. You must love them through that. Sometimes you don’t know what to do during that time. You must keep that communication open and it will help you through it. You must accept that they have to grow. Learning the Love Language of your child will help you to do just that.

Jesus lived a life of sacrifice. Our job is to look to God in prayer each morning and get closer to him and then go and make someone’s life better. We are here to be a benefit to each other and be a blessing to one another.

Each person in a relationship has a love tank- adults and children. Filling love tanks is about encouraging each other. Do you know the love language that your child prefers? If we assume that our children should be simply trained, it is not enough. They are to receive training, but they have a love tank too. That training will go a lot further if it is in a love language that the child prefers and better understands.

Adults that are single, have a love tank also. You work with people who have love tanks. It is not just about amorous relationships. It is very important that we recognize everyone has a love tank.

"And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity." 1 Corinthians 13:13

Christ wants us to show love.

"I have shewed you all things, how that so labouring ye ought to support the weak, and to remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how he said, It is more blessed to give than to receive." Acts 20:35

True love doesn’t erase the past but it can make the future different. That is the principle of salvation. Our memories don’t go away. Salvation is God’s love. We must be willing to learn how others feel loved. Someone may come to you and say, "my heart is broken." You can be a counselor to them. Empty relationships are not just in marriage. Sometimes they exist between more than husbands and wives. They get empty because people stop filling the love tank of the ones they love. If you nurture your relationships you will be blessed. Find out what their love language is and they will have more confidence in you.

More Reading on The 5 Love Languages:

Words of Affirmation

Quality Time

Gifts

Acts if Service

Physical Touch

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